Monday, May 9, 2011

The Good, the Bad, and the Crazy

First off, a belated happy Mother's Day to all you moms!
We had a good day here.  Hubby bought me a Kindle!!!!!!  It should arrive on Wednesday, and I am soooooo excited!!!!!!
I think part of it is self-preservation; he's in danger of being buried under the pile of books in our bedroom should we have a strong enough earthquake to send them pitching down from the precarious pile they're currently stacked in.  But I've been wanting a Kindle since they came out: at the time I figured I should wait a couple of years, until the bugs were worked out and it was less expensive.  And, voila!!!!!
At the same time he was ordering, the Dallas mavericks beat the L.A. Lakers, booting them out of the NBA championships!  WOO-HOO!!!!!!
(Remember, I grew up in Boston.  In the 80's.  During the heyday of the Celtics/Lakers rivalry.  Hatred of the Lakers is deeply ingrained; not even 9 years living in L.A could erase it.  In fact, it may have only deepened it.)
I then went to Barnes & Noble to look at all the new books I'm gonna download on my new Kindle!!!!!

Is that too materialistic of me?  Who cares? Hahahahahaha!!!!!!

Besides, after the weekend I had (and the week coming up), I needed a bit of fun. And the nicest part was when I thanked Hubby and he said "Of course!  You deserve it!"
That was awfully nice to hear.
That's the good.

On Friday there was an incident at work with one of my clients, and now there's all this drama going on.  Incident reports are being filed, emails detailing the incident are being sent, and all of it is completely unnecessary and ridiculous, and it is all the fault of one person.  Who is a client.  Or, maybe, WAS a client.
No one was hurt, but mild threats were made, emotions got out of hand, and now the executive director is involved.  I have no idea what's going to happen: all I know is that I would strongly prefer to NOT be a part of it anymore.
That's the bad AND the crazy.

Except for my boss: she ROCKS!!!!!

In other news, this is tech week for the show at the synagogue.  We have 3 rehearsals with the kids, figuring out the light and sound cues, the curtain opening and closing, costume changes, etc. The show is this coming weekend, I have classes all week, took the kids to the doctor this morning, and am trying to figure out what the heck to do about The Incident.  As of next week, for the foreseeable future (or at least the summer), I'll only be working 3 days a week and things will calm down quite a bit.  I'll be able to focus on packing, getting rid of a lot of our stuff, and getting ready to move.
I'm also going to focus on more strength training. 'Cause I'm missing my heavier weights.

Also focusing more on the fact that my body is NOT a dumping ground, either for food or emotions.  And that it is time to take a stand.  I will no longer work with this client, if I have ANY say whatsoever.

I'll let you know what happens!

Update:   As of this afternoon, I am no longer working with her.  I got an email from her asking me if I'm available to teach her at another time.

No.  No I am not.

I was also given a guilt trip this afternoon by ANOTHER member, one whom I'd just met.  Today was the last session of my Monday afternoon class, and this person was the only one to show up.  She just joined, and saw the class on the schedule.  I apologized and explained that I am not supposed to teach a class with only one participant, and gave her some options for other classes.  She then harangued me about the fact that she has two young kids (join the club) and had rescheduled her ENTIRE day in order to be able to come to the class.  Yes, a part of e felt guilty for not holding the class.  A teeny, tiny, microscopic part of me.  Most of me was just pissed.  Especially when she gave a world-weary sigh and said "Fine, I'll just go ride the bike or something."  Sorry, but it was 1:30 in the afternoon, and she had two floors of a nearly-empty gym almost all to herself.  My heart didn't bleed.  Especially today.
It may sound harsh.  Maybe it IS harsh.  But I'm done feeling badly for people who go out of their way to try and MAKE me feel badly!  Yes, you pay a membership fee.  Yes, I am an employee.  I am not your servant. And the fact is, I didn't make the rules.  And, please, DO NOT talk to me about having to schedule around 2 young kids!  You do NOT want to get into a pi**ing contest with me about THAT.
Because I will win, hands down!

The fact is, for the 3 years that I have been teaching Pilates, I have gone above and beyond to satisfy my clients.  I, and others, have twisted ourselves into pretzels with some of them, but there is NO pleasing them.  Most of the clients are WONDERFUL, but there are a few...  My boss even told me today that I am the most patient member of the staff.
That was a bit of a surprise.
But then again, I have had some HIGH-MAINTENANCE clients, and they're all still alive, lol!

On the radio today, I heard Aretha singing "Respect" TWICE.
I'm taking it as a sign.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me.


Geosomin said...

Good for you. It's hard putting yourself first sometimes, but don't feel guilty about it. There comes a point where other people have to deal with what they do and you have what you do...and the rest just sorts itself out in the end. Learning to say no was really hard for me (I still don't enough)...
It's nice when the people you work with and your family back you up isn't it? :)

Leslie Goldman said...

During grad school, when I was in a bad year-long funk, I'd put RESPECT on my car's CD player in the morning as I drove to class and force myself to sing along. Sometimes it even worked :-)

Happy belated Mom's Day!

azusmom said...

Thank you!
Geo, saying no is SO difficult! And, yeah, the support I've had has been AMAZING!

Leslie, what is it about grad school? I started having anxiety attacks in grad school. Had NEVER had them before!