I spoke with WG's teacher today, and we've both come to the same conclusion: A lot of her behavior stems from anxiety. And there are other kids in her school who take meds for anxiety, and have been helped quite a lot. So we're looking into it. One of the options is a bit controversial (and expensive), but it may be our best option.
Because the last thing we want is for her to experience that. Especially at the levels I experienced it at her age. I was in a place where waking up in the morning and going to school caused crippling fear. I hope she never, EVER has to feel that way!
So, we'll do whatever it takes to help her.
Part of me feels badly because she inherited her anxiety from me. On the other hand, at least I'm more informed than my parents and grandparents were. We're learning SO MUCH about the brain, and how it functions, and I'm glad we live in an era where that information is available.
And I'm going to ignore all the voices (mine and others) that try to make us feel guilty for medicating her, if that's what it comes to.
Quite frankly, anyone who tried to tell us that we're doing it "wrong" can, to quote Malcolm Tucker, f*ck the f*ck off.